Who should change- parents or kids?

Now a days, almost every parents of 8 to 20 year old child had the issue that their kids are not listening to them, they are not behaving properly, they are ignoring them, they are becoming so much irritated, they dont want to spend time with them, they are not as before. So where's the problem?

They are going to physical, mental and harmonal change in their life, so we should support them. It is hard i know but the thing is that " we should change our nature not them". By changing our nature we will see a sudden change in their nature also. 

We shout in every little mistakes they make, we punish them for little to big things, we demand 1st position from them, we just think by ourselves that they should lead in every aspects either in study, games, interviews, jobs, we compare them with every single person who has done something good. WHY............? that's the reason, we should change.

If you will shout on them in every little mistakes, they will be frighten to tell you the truth, they dont trust you, they loose their confidence on you, they dont count on you, after making any mistakes they will not come to you to tell you the truth because they know what is going to happen, you shout on them or give punishment, so whats the reason of telling you. They will hide things from you. They will not be comfortable with you. If anyone compares us with someone then we too feel bad, so thats the same thing happens with our child. Every child is different, they have their own interest topics, not everyone is good in studies, not everyone is good in sports, not everyone is good in art. Every child is unique in themselves. Do we know our marks in 8th std, no na, because it really doesnt matters. Children are frighten by exams because we tortured them to score good marks, this create tension or depression in their mind.

Lets see a story: one day a boy scored good marks in exam, he was very happy with his marks, he thinks that his parents will appreciate him but when he show his marks to his parents, they are not at all happy because the neighbour's son scored more than the boy, inspite of appreciating they compared him. He got very much depressed and think that his parents dont love him and they cant be happy with him. He decided not to tell anything to his parents from now.

Moral: a little appreciation is enough for every child, this helps to develop confidence on them.

So parents change your mentality, change your nature, be more supportive to your child, encourage them, appreciate them in little things. Then you will see that they will become same as before, they will start spending times with you, they will share everything with you. Just a little change in yourselves can create a big change in your life. You are the parents, its your duty to put your 1 step forward towards improvement of your relations with your child.