How to teach your child to become a problem-solver

Our child ask a lot of questions to us everyday and what we do is answer them immediately rather making them to think and get the answer of their question by their own.
 
They say" i m hungry"
We give them food to eat.

They say " i dont found my books"
We search and give them

They say " i dont know how to do a thing"
We immediately do that for them.
 
        These all things will not help our children. We want our child to be independent, innovative and by solving their problems makes them dependent and dumb, they will not be able to use their own mind to take any decision. 

For ex: if they create a mess rather than cleaning the mess immediately, let him think to clean it, if he dont think of cleaning the mess ask him questions like how to clean the mess, where is the rag kept. At first time your child will not be able to get you, but when you keep this how, when, where questions on habbit, it will make your child to think about it and solve their problem created by them.
   
       Dont always say " NO" to your child in every thing they are doing, this will create a negative impact on their mind and they wont be able to take any decision by their own, they will lose confidence on them, they will loose their sense of humor, their sense of thinking. This negativity makes them dependent on others while taking any decision. Appreciating their decision and helping them to think unique will help them to be indepedent on taking any decision in their future and this will make them to get ready for the future challenges that are on their way of success.
   
            It is said that: if a man dont know fishing and you give him fish, he will eat one day. But if you teach him how to do fishing, he will eat whole life.
Similarly, if your child dont know how to solve the problem and you solve it, then it will help him 1 day but if you teach him how to solve the problem, then it will help him the entire life.
   

So, its not late. Dont solve your child problems, teach them how to solve their problems.

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